\u00d6fke yeti\u015fkinlikte aniden ortaya \u00e7\u0131kan bir duygu gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcnse de, onunla kurdu\u011fumuz ili\u015fki \u00e7ok daha erken ba\u015flar. Bir \u00e7ocuk, evde k\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131n nas\u0131l g\u00f6sterildi\u011fini, kimin \u00f6fkelenmeye hakk\u0131 oldu\u011funu ve \u00f6fkenin ard\u0131ndan neler ya\u015fand\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u00fcrekli izler. Bu g\u00f6zlemler zamanla otomatik tepkilere d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr. Kendi \u00f6fkenizi anlamak i\u00e7in \u00f6nce o ilk sahneye bakmak i\u015fe yarayabilir.<\/p>\n
Her ailenin yaz\u0131l\u0131 olmayan bir \u00f6fke kural\u0131 vard\u0131r. Baz\u0131 evlerde ba\u011f\u0131rmak ola\u011fand\u0131r ve kavga biter bitmez unutulur. Baz\u0131lar\u0131nda ise k\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131k hi\u00e7 dile getirilmez, bunun yerine sessizlik, k\u00fcsk\u00fcnl\u00fck ya da so\u011fuk bir tav\u0131r kullan\u0131l\u0131r. Kimi evlerde \u00f6fkeli olmak yasakt\u0131r; \u00e7ocuk k\u0131zd\u0131\u011f\u0131nda “ay\u0131p”, “abart\u0131yorsun” gibi c\u00fcmlelerle susturulur. Kendinize \u015funu sorun: Annem, babam ya da bak\u0131m veren ki\u015filer k\u0131zd\u0131\u011f\u0131nda ne yapard\u0131? Ben k\u0131zd\u0131\u011f\u0131mda ne olurdu? Bu iki sorunun cevab\u0131, bug\u00fcnk\u00fc tepkilerinizin kayna\u011f\u0131na dair g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc ipu\u00e7lar\u0131 verir. Benzer sorular ya\u015fayanlar i\u00e7in \u00c7ankaya aile terapisi<\/a> konulu i\u00e7erik de faydal\u0131 bilgiler sunuyor.<\/p>\n \u00d6fkenin patlama olarak ya\u015fand\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir evde b\u00fcy\u00fcyen ki\u015fi, ya ayn\u0131 yolu tekrar eder ya da sesin y\u00fckseldi\u011fi her durumdan korkarak uzakla\u015f\u0131r. \u00d6fkesi bast\u0131r\u0131lan bir \u00e7ocuk b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde s\u0131n\u0131r koymakta zorlanabilir, k\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bedensel gerginlik, ba\u015f a\u011fr\u0131s\u0131 ya da ani bir t\u00fckenmi\u015flik olarak ya\u015fayabilir. Sessizlikle cezaland\u0131r\u0131lan biri ise \u00e7at\u0131\u015fma an\u0131nda kapanma e\u011filimi g\u00f6sterebilir. Bu \u00f6r\u00fcnt\u00fcler kader de\u011fildir; sadece zaman\u0131nda i\u015fe yaram\u0131\u015f ve al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131\u011fa d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015fm\u00fc\u015f stratejilerdir.<\/p>\n Bir hafta boyunca \u00f6fkelendi\u011finiz anlar\u0131 k\u0131sa notlarla kaydedin. Tetikleyen olay\u0131, bedeninizdeki ilk i\u015fareti, o an yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z \u015feyi ve sonras\u0131nda nas\u0131l hissetti\u011finizi yaz\u0131n. Ard\u0131ndan notlara bak\u0131p bu tepkinin ailenizde tan\u0131d\u0131k bir kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 olup olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn. \u00d6rne\u011fin kap\u0131y\u0131 \u00e7arpmak, konuyu de\u011fi\u015ftirmek ya da \u00f6z\u00fcr dilemeyi reddetmek size birinden mi kalm\u0131\u015f? Ama\u00e7 su\u00e7lu aramak de\u011fil, \u00f6r\u00fcnt\u00fcy\u00fc fark etmektir. Fark etti\u011finiz anda tepki vermeden \u00f6nce birka\u00e7 saniyelik bir aral\u0131k yaratmak m\u00fcmk\u00fcn olur; yava\u015f nefes almak ya da ortamdan k\u0131sa s\u00fcreli\u011fine ayr\u0131lmak bu aral\u0131\u011f\u0131 geni\u015fletir. Ayn\u0131 konuda Ankara aile terapisi<\/a> ile ilgili de\u011ferlendirmeler de okunabilir.<\/p>\n \u00d6fke ili\u015fkilerinize, i\u015finize veya sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131za zarar veriyorsa, kontrol\u00fc kaybetti\u011finiz duygusu s\u0131k ya\u015fan\u0131yorsa ya da \u00e7ocukluktan gelen ac\u0131 an\u0131lar g\u00f6zlem s\u0131ras\u0131nda sizi zorluyorsa bir psikolog veya psikiyatristle g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmek yerinde olur. Terapi, \u00f6fkenin alt\u0131ndaki incinmi\u015flik, korku ya da utan\u00e7 gibi duygular\u0131 g\u00fcvenli bi\u00e7imde ele alman\u0131za yard\u0131mc\u0131 olabilir. Bu ba\u015fl\u0131kta merak edilenler i\u00e7in Ankara ergen psikolo\u011fu<\/a> \u00fczerine haz\u0131rlanan yaz\u0131ya da g\u00f6z at\u0131labilir.<\/p>\n \u00d6fkenizin ge\u00e7mi\u015fte bir anlam\u0131 vard\u0131; bug\u00fcn ise o anlam\u0131 yeniden yazma \u015fans\u0131n\u0131z var. Merakla ve kendinize nazik davranarak yap\u0131lan her g\u00f6zlem, bu de\u011fi\u015fimin k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ama sa\u011flam bir ad\u0131m\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" \u00d6fkeyle ba\u015fa \u00e7\u0131kma bi\u00e7imimiz \u00e7o\u011fu zaman \u00e7ocukluk evinde \u015fekillenir. Ailede \u00f6fkenin nas\u0131l kar\u015f\u0131land\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6zlemlemek, kendi tepkilerinizi anlaman\u0131n ilk ad\u0131m\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":0,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-244","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/xn--karnca-iermeyen-blge-b1b35ah0c.org.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/244","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/xn--karnca-iermeyen-blge-b1b35ah0c.org.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/xn--karnca-iermeyen-blge-b1b35ah0c.org.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/xn--karnca-iermeyen-blge-b1b35ah0c.org.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=244"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/xn--karnca-iermeyen-blge-b1b35ah0c.org.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/244\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/xn--karnca-iermeyen-blge-b1b35ah0c.org.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=244"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/xn--karnca-iermeyen-blge-b1b35ah0c.org.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=244"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/xn--karnca-iermeyen-blge-b1b35ah0c.org.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=244"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}\u00d6\u011frenilen tepkiler yeti\u015fkinlikte nas\u0131l g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcr?<\/h2>\n
G\u00f6zlem nas\u0131l yap\u0131l\u0131r?<\/h2>\n
Ne zaman destek almak gerekir?<\/h2>\n